The Brotha’s Speak| “13 Things You Shouldn’t Do On A First Date”

The Brotha’s Speak| “13 Things You Shouldn’t Do On A First Date”

The guy you like finally asks you out on a date. At first, you were excited. Now, all you can think about is what to wear, what to say, and how not to screw it up. We all know that the first date can be a bit intimidating.  Here are some things you should avoid doing if you really want to make a good impression.


1.Don't Google or Facebook stalk before the first date.


Why? Because not only is googling your date creepy and invasive, but it can also lead to false conclusions. If by chance you feel the need look the guy up (for safety reasons, etc.), it shouldn't be obvious that you've done so.

True story: I once had a woman tell me that she looked me up before our date. Then she hammered me with questions about my profession before I even told her what I did for a living. See the problem here?

2.Don’t insist on paying the bill.
You should always carry some cash on you in case there’s an emergency. But generally speaking, if a man asks you out and you insist on paying, it gives him the impression that you feel the need to be in control.

3.Don’t monopolize the conversation.
When you do all the talking—especially if it’s all about you, your date has very little incentive to dig deeper to learn more. Keep in mind that a little mystery makes you more attractive.  Additionally, talking about yourself a lot can make you seem self-absorbed

4.Don’t bring up marriage.


When a woman starts talking about marriage on a first date, she appears thirsty.

5.Don’t talk about your ex unless he asks.
On your first date, all the guy really wants to know is that you are capable of relaxing and having a good time. Talking about an ex—especially if it was a serious relationship—is way too heavy a topic.

6.Don’t text. It’s rude.

Texting another person while you are on a date sends the message that whatever is happening where you are is unimportant. And if that is the case, you are wasting both your time and his.

7.Don’t yawn even if you have to.
Yawning on a first date gives the impression that you’re bored. If by chance you must do this, just explain that you are tired, but you really are enjoying yourself.

8.Don’t be late.

Unless something happened that was beyond your control, you should do your best to be on time for your first date. Otherwise, your lateness may tell your date that you don’t respect his time.

9.Don’t take food to go unless your date insists.
Ever heard one of your homegirl’s say she’s only going out with a guy for the free food? This happens. Men know this, which is why you should skip the to-go box on the first date, unless he suggests otherwise.

10.If you're choosing the restaurant, don’t pick the most expensive one.

Choosing a pricey restaurant on the first date tells your date that you are high maintenance. He may not want to take you on a second date, because he feels like you will always want him to spend a lot of money.

11.Don’t dress like a hoochie.
When you’re going out with a guy, he doesn’t want to feel like you’re dressing to get everyone else’s attention. Which means, you don’t need to have everything exposed.

12.Don’t forget your manners—no matter how comfortable you get.
The two of you may really be clicking. And that’s cool. But remember your manners! Be careful not to burp, pass gas, or talk with food in your mouth, while you are on a date.

13.Don’t be scared to break traditions if the vibe is right.

No you shouldn’t go home with him, but yes you should text or call and say you had a great time (if it’s true and you deem it appropriate), rather than wait for him to make the next move.


Do you have any tips to add to this list? Post them in the comment section below.

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2 thoughts on “The Brotha’s Speak| “13 Things You Shouldn’t Do On A First Date””

  • 1
    Kristin on October 20, 2016 Reply

    Great tips! Taking notes! #9 I never thought about before! Good one!

  • 2
    Melissa on October 25, 2016 Reply

    Very good points. Thank you for sharing…

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