It's holiday time. And cuffing season has officially reached it's peak! For couples this means, cute selfies in the snow, Instagram posts boasting of successful family introductions, and whimsical proposals. But for single girls, this time of year can bring mixed emotions, and never ending questions from family members who are concerned that we will die alone. Sigh...
Being single during the holidays can be fun, but it isn't always the easiest thing to navigate. Here are the 6 rules I use to help me get through the holidays without losing my sanity, or my holiday cheer.
Rule 1: Get out of the house! Getting through this holiday season is going to require a lot of going out, and interacting with other people. If you’re a homebody this is going to be hard for you, but trust me—it works! No matter where you live, there’s bound to be an event happening somewhere—plays, parties, musicals, special museum openings etc. And there is no reason why everyone else should have all the fun. Which is why this year you are going to find an event in your area, pull out the cutest outfit in your closet, go out, and have fun. Staying at home and sulking is not, I repeat NOT an option.
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Rule 2: Find a meaningful way to make someone else smile. One of the quickest ways to become sad or depressed during the holidays is by spending a lot of time focusing on yourself, and what could have been. But this season, you’re going to do something nice for someone else—just because. There plenty of people who are hurting this time of year. You may not be able to take their pain away entirely. But you can do something to let them know that they are being thought of and that they’re loved. Be the reason someone else smiles this holiday season, and I guarantee it will put a smile on your face.
Rule 3: Have a movie and snack stash handy in case plans fall through. There may be a time or two during the holiday season when your plans get cancelled at the last minute. Or maybe you just don’t feel like going anywhere (which according to rule 1 should rarely be an excuse). This is where a good movie (or book), and tasty snacks come in handy. Pick your favorite movies, or books, grab a few of your favorite snacks, and have them on hand just in case there’s a last-minute change of plans.
Rule 4: Have an escape plan (*note* this requires a ride-or-die). You already know it’s coming. It happens every year at family gatherings. One (or more) of your family members is going to ask you a million questions about why you still are still single, and then proceed to tell you what you need to be doing to attract the right person. Normally, you are not prepared. But this year you’re smarter. You will not be falling for the okie doke. You’re going find one person—someone who is good at reading your facial expressions, and very good at responding in crisis situations. That person will be your life line. Whenever someone is getting a little too personal, your life line will be just one text message, or glance away from coming to your rescue.
Rule 5: Create your own holiday tradition. Don't wait until you're dating to do all the fun stuff. Start now! What are some things you love doing around this time of year? Why not make one of them a yearly tradition? Giving yourself something to look forward to can be a great way to make the holidays fun and festive.
My yearly traditions: Christmas movie marathons, and brunch with my girls!
Rule 6: Love where you are right now. Embrace your singleness! You have the luxury of doing ANYTHING and EVERYTHING you want to do right now. You get to spend time with friends and family, and even do things for yourself, without having to take another person into consideration. This won’t always be the case. Now is the time to enjoy it!
Whatever your reason for being single this year, don't let it keep you from being joyful this season. And remember to share a little bit of that joy with others!
Have any rules you’d like to add? Leave them in the comments section below.